M.Y.O.B.One thing I really don't
M.Y.O.B.
One thing I really don't like is when someone decides to dispense advice on a subject that they don't have all of the facts. When people do that, they have decided that person they are giving advice to is stupid. Most people are not. I, for one, am a very smart person. I may do stupid things that I regret later, but that does not make me stupid.
I usually have well thought out reasons for doing things that I do, and don't necessarily make all of them known. It is not necessary because most of the time it is not anyone else's business. And that's what makes me mad, when someone makes it their business, not matter how well-intentioned.
Everything may not be good and happy right now, and I am trying to work some things out, that are very personal and hurt, that may take a while. While I appreciate the thoughts, I don't need protecting. I also don't need anyone doing things on my behalf (if that's what forming your own opinions and acting on them is for), like making people feel like shit, thinking that helps in some way. It doesn't. In fact, things like that usually make things worse.
Gossip and innuendo are hurting people right now and it is not fair to anyone. It makes people resentful and do things they feel forced to do, which isn't fair, nor the right way to make decisions. And it wouldn't be necessary if people would just mind their own business.
Posted by thatothrgirl at July 30, 2000 01:41 PM